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Men are always talking about the girlfriends and wives (mostly wives) who don't put out as much as they'd like. Guys love to bitch about the chick they went on a date with, or tried to pick up, who wouldn't put out no matter what they tried. Women who won't fuck you is a popular topic among men.
-By Caleb Jones
The seduction community tends to call these women "freaks". The rest of the world calls these women "sluts". I don't like either word. Many high sex drive, validation-needing women aren't freaky at all, and "slut" implies that a woman will fuck any guy, and in my (extensive) experience, these so-called "sluts" are just as choosy about they men the have sex with as other women. It's just that they have no problem fucking a larger number of men in a shorter period of time.
In my book, this is a good thing. In my own terminology, I call any problematic woman a Shrew, and chicks who go out and fuck 10 guys without using condoms would be one of the many categories under the Shrew umbrella.
Regardless, for simplicity I'll call these women "freaks" for the moment. Allow me to clarify a few things about them.
1. Freaks are not bad. Only your expectations make them so.
It's interesting. The number one problem with freaks is a problem directly created by men, not women. Want to know what it is? It's this:
You expect monogamy from them. If you simply develop the strength to not get oneitis for a freak and to not get jealous when a freak fucks or flirts with another guy, freaks are the greatest things in the world and can be a source of great happiness for you as a man (provided you take precautions; more on this in a minute).
Even to this day, after seeing this for decades now, I am simply astounded at the number of otherwise intelligent men who get into a monogamous relationship with a gal who is clearly a high sex drive, high-validation needing freak, and then he's shocked when she cheats on him (or when she dances on a table at the bar without her shirt on, or whatever). Its really is amazing (and depressing) how often men do this. They assume that because they start getting feelings for a crazy chick, she will instantly transform into a monogamous, well-behaved, one-man woman. Um...no.
That's rule number one with freaks. Have sex with them all you like (they're fantastic in bed). Date them if you must. But never, ever, ever expect monogamy or proper social behavior from them. That's not who they are. (Of course, getting monogamous with anyone is a bad move in my opinion, but that's another discussion. I'm saying this goes x10 with high-sex-drive freaks.)
Some of the most enjoyable experiences (sexual and otherwise, but mostly sexual) I've had have been from these kinds of women. But I don't expect monogamy from them and I don't get "serious" with them, and that's the only difference between me and all the other men they constantly disappoint.
2. No matter what she says, no matter how she acts, condom up.
You should always wear condoms during your sexual adventures, but with freaks, you need to have a 100% unbreakable iron law with yourself. Fuck them all you want, but ALWAYS wear a condom. ALWAYS.
I don't care if she says she "just got tested" (she's lying).
I don't care if she says she "hasn't fucked any other guys in five months" (she's lying).
I don't care if she says she "can't get pregnant" (she's lying).
I don't care if she actually has had her tubes tied or has an IUD and you've verified it (she can't get pregnant, but she can still give you chlamydia).
I don't care if you known her for five years (doesn't matter).
I don't care if she's married (she's still fucking a bunch of other guys).
You need to wear a god damn condom, or I promise you'll end up with a nice fun disease the next morning.
I've never gotten a woman pregnant on accident or gotten an STD, but I have had a few near misses in my day, and all of these were with the freaky chicks. NO EXCUSES. WEAR A CONDOM. Yes, I know condoms suck. I hate them as much as you do. Yes, sometimes you'll be with some super hot, super young freaky chick and you'll want to feel that perfect pussy. I don't care. Wear a condom.
1. They will fuck you forever.
Once you fuck them, and it's clear you don't judge their behavior, freaks will service you sexually, off and on between delusional boyfriends and husbands, for the rest of your life, and I mean that. Every other man gives them drama, demands, lectures, and arguments regarding their sex-filled ways. Other women stare down their noses at them.
But if you spend time with them without judgement, you will be the coolest, most desirable, most safe man she will ever know. I have multiple women in the high-sex-drive freak category still cumming back to me even after five years. I fully expect to be seeing these women (again, off and on) for the rest of my life.
2. They are usually very hot.
Freaks tend to be much better-looking than average. It's hard to be a freak if you're really fat or ugly, so freaky chicks tend to be better-looking ones.
3. They don't make demands on your behavior.
As long as you don't try to place monogamous relationship structures upon them, freaks will usually extend the same understanding to you. They don't really mind if you're out fucking other women, even if you're dating other women and/or have real feelings for other women. This is one of the huge advantages of freaks over other types of girls, like "good girls" or gold diggers, both of whom are going to pretty pissed if you're out playing with other women, unless you take the time to manage the relationship correctly. Freaks are some of the lowest-maintenance women out there.
4. Young freaks tend to like older men.
Most younger freaks are Type 2 VYW (check the glossary if you don't know what that is). They've had enough adventures with men of all ages to figure out that younger men give them more drama and headache. If you're an older guy going after younger women, it would behoove you to learn how to integrate high-sex-drive women into your life.
5. They're fantastic lays.
This goes without saying. Most of the best lays of my life have been with freaks. They know what they're doing and know what men like, and do it. I hope I've helped remove some of your male ASD and perhaps have gotten you to view high-sex freaks a little differently. They really are worth making work.
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Hellin 2011-10-27 15:23:48
Do you recommend freaks in OLTR or MLTR? I have a freak FB/FF, and I do always wear a condom, it's important, as you say, but I have some times in the past, dived down on her, um eh.. The last time I did this to her ... I got chlamydia in my throat. My fucking throat dude! All gone now, but next time it could be herpes. Yap. No. Don't even think about it. Never again! Nice post!
Rod 2011-10-28 09:29:15
I wish I had read this 3 years ago... I was in a mono-LTR with one of this "freaks". Big mistake!
Blackdragon 2011-10-28 20:43:22
Irresponsible, off-the-chart freaks are never allowed to be more than FBs in my life, primarily because the sheer number of guys they fuck, without condoms, makes a serious relationship with them impossible. How can I be serious with you when I'm always worried you might give me an STD or that you might suddenly get pregnant from another guy? And yes, I never go down on these gals either. I really don't want Herpes in my mouth. But fuck with a condom rolled all the way down to the bottom? Sure, no problem. If I'm really unsure about a gal I'll even have sex while wearing a condom while poked out through my underwear, so there's literally no skin-to-skin contact. (Though that's a lot of trouble and if I have to do that with a chick I'm not going to be having sex with her very often.)
Kevin Velasco 2011-10-29 00:14:48
Lol... can't we still get Herpes on our fingers?
Blackdragon 2011-10-29 13:00:53
No. Just like you can't get athlete's foot on your fingers. Athlete's foot likes your foot. Herpes (both types) like the mouth and genitals. (Is it within the realm of possibility to get herpes on a finger or a shoulder, like a faction of one percent? Yes. Should you worry about a faction of one percent? No.)
Kevin Velasco 2011-10-29 15:36:40
It still doesn't look pretty! http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Herpetic_whitlow
Maverick 2016-10-22 01:53:12
Your term "shrew" is not defined in your glossary. Just wanted to point that out so maybe you could add that in...
Blackdragon 2016-10-22 10:25:02
Check the dictionary.
Maverick 2016-10-22 10:52:40
Maverick 2016-10-31 23:57:17
Do you ever feel like you're a bit of a sucker for punishment with these kind of women? In my experience the only girl who has ever "left me" was this kind of freaky girl, with my old gfs it was me who left them first. If this girl does an LSNFTE and happens to return to you later, are you thinking to yourself ok fine we'll do a bit more of the porn star sex and knowing that she's going to soon do the same exact thing again a little later on. Do you think that because she decides to come back to you that she sees you as a sort of constant daddy/pimp figure for her? Otherwise doesn't your ego take a bashing when she doesn't want you and goes away. How do you rationalise that. Also where do you generally meet these kinds of women, they're usually strippers or porn stars right?
Blackdragon 2016-11-01 09:57:39
Do you ever feel like you’re a bit of a sucker for punishment with these kind of women?Never. I like sex, especially the kind with no strings attached.
In my experience the only girl who has ever “left me” was this kind of freaky girl, with my old gfs it was me who left them first.That's because you probably get sexually bored with a woman after a while. I do not. I only next someone if she gives me drama.
If this girl does an LSNFTE and happens to return to you later, are you thinking to yourself ok fine we’ll do a bit more of the porn star sex and knowing that she’s going to soon do the same exact thing again a little later on.Yep.
Do you think that because she decides to come back to you that she sees you as a sort of constant daddy/pimp figure for her?I don't care what she thinks about me. Particularly if she's a FB.
Otherwise doesn’t your ego take a bashing when she doesn’t want you and goes away.No. I don't care what she thinks about me. She's just one woman in the portfolio of many.
Also where do you generally meet these kinds of womenOnline. Though I don't screen for them. They just represent a percentage of women I meet.
they’re usually strippers or porn stars right?No. They're just normal, everyday women who have higher sex drives than usual.
Maverick 2016-11-19 13:17:55
I have a feeling I may have just run into another of these women; her interest seems super high but I haven't met her yet in person. Is it fair to say that a lot of these kind of "fuck buddies" are often Lucifer's Daughters, tomboys, lawyers, Irish maids, strippers, cougars or women with leathery skin, small tits, hair cracks or acne. This new girl looks like a 9 or even a 10 to me from her photos, but appears to be a Lucifer's Daughter (a female psychopath)....she appears to be a Satanist...I seem to be attracting these super hot women (in my eyes) nowadays but they also seem to be super unstable if not super dangerous as well!!! I also met an attractive married cougar who seems to want me as well...but she seems a lot more stable than these two "Lucifer's Daughter" types I met recently...but it's the latter type that are getting me excited, maybe its the danger element!!! Maybe you should do a post about those if you have any insight.
Vertigo 2018-11-28 02:32:45
BD, what about kissing? Could not find anything about this topic on your blog... Do you ever kiss these girls or you just go straight to the business? I have this problem in general... Not ever going down on girls for obvious reasons, but am confused what to do about kissing, since well, you can get all the bugs via kissing also