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Sexual Health Myths
-By Caleb Jones
Many years ago I was working in my day job with a high level client. She was a doctor and professional speaker in Los Angeles, focusing on the areas of women's health, specifically breast cancer and similar aliments. She was actually quite famous in medical circles and was (and still is) a well-known name in that area.
During one conversation I asked her about why breast cancer was getting more and more common. I find medical topics fascinating and read up on them often. I had read just a few years prior that one in eleven women would get breast cancer, but I had just read recently it was now one in eight women. Amazingly, just a few decades ago it was around one in thirty women. Wow.
I asked her "Why such a rapid rise in breast cancer? That's incredible."
She answered immediately without blinking, "DDT."
I was confused. I knew all about DDT from my school days as a kid, a dangerous carcinogenic pesticide widely used in 50's and 60's but banned in the early 70's. "DDT?" I said, "What do you mean? We stopped using that 30 years ago. Plus I've done some reading and I've never heard anything about DDT being the cause for the recent rise in breast cancer. I thought breast cancer was caused by lifestyle changes in society."
"You're right," she said, "We did stop using it. But it's now in the environment, in our food and drinking water, and has a half life of somewhere around 1000 years. So every time you eat or drink something, you're consuming trace amounts of it, even if you eat 100% organic raw food and filtered water, and even though we haven't used DDT in decades."
She could see the dubious expression on my face. "What the hell?" I said, "I've never heard anything like this."
"I'm sure you haven't," she said, "And you probably won't ever. The medical community just doesn't see the point in telling women that they're eating DDT which will give them breast cancer and there's nothing they can do about it. So instead they backtrack and talk about all the 'safe' standard cancer stuff, like eat right, exercise, take vitamins, etc."
I'm not a doctor of course, and I have zero expertise in this area. I have no idea if what she said was true. All I can tell you is this woman's credentials in this area were extreme.
Since then I have been very wary about the standard dogma of the medical community. Many experiences I've had with doctors have backed up my theory that in many cases, the medical community is just blowing smoke up your ass about all kinds of things.
When I was a little kid in the 70's, the big thing from the medical community was "don't eat sugar!". Fat and bread, of course, was just fine. Eat all of that you want. Just don't eat that cookie!
Then in the 80's, the medical community stopped talking about sugar and went hog wild about cholesterol. Eat all the food you want, including sugar. Just don't eat any cholesterol! I'm sure you remember those fat-free but high-sugar brownies, pastries, and cookies that were common around the early 90's. Dude. I ate boxes of those things back then. Because the doctors and the fitness community said they were perfectly okay to eat. Fat was the enemy, not sugar.
Then the mid 90's rolled around, the Atkins diet hit the scene, and suddenly it was carbs that was the enemy. The medical community did a complete 180 on fat. Eat all the fat you want, fat is good for you. Have all the cheese and steaks you like...just don't eat any carbs!
Then the 2000's came, and it was "Hey, you're not eating enough carbs! Eat carbs! Just don't eat trans fats!"
And on and on it goes.
In a few years, you can bet the medical (and fitness) community will turn right around and pick something new that you're not supposed to eat, and tell you that what you weren't supposed to eat is now okay.
Are you getting my point yet? It's all BS.
Okay. Now how does this relate to dating, seduction, sex, and relationships? There are many ways. I'll just give you two off the top of my head (but there are many more).
1. AIDS Risk For Heterosexuals. The medical community loves to scare the shit out of people regarding STDs. Yet I know many reckless guys who have fucked over 50 or 100 women, almost never using condoms, who have either never gotten an STD or got something very simple one time (like Chlamydia), had no symptoms (just tested positive), took a pill, and it went away, and that was it.
I'm not saying STDs aren't a concern. They are. I am extremely careful about condom use and I talk about STD prevention quite a bit in my ebooks. Before you read what I'm about to say, remember I said STD prevention is extremely serious and extremely important. I'm just saying when some doctor is trying to scare the shit out of you regarding getting AIDS or something horrific like that, your bullshit detector needs to be on high alert.
On one hand, the medical community screams at everyone about the dangers of getting AIDS, but on the other hand I once had a doctor behind closed doors tell me off the record that in my city, I could sleep with 200 women without using a condom and I would not get HIV. Yeah, I might get other bad stuff, like Chlamydia or Herpes II, but not HIV. It just wasn't a risk factor in my area. But the doctor warned me very clearly "Don't tell anyone I told you that!" Such a message would screw up the medical community's narrative of "be scared of AIDS everybody!"
And please don't think I'm discounting the AIDS problem in the world. In my life I have had two personal friends die of AIDS. One of them died very slowly, painfully, and badly. I saw it with my own eyes and it was awful to watch and I felt terrible for him. So this AIDS issue has effected me personally. However, not only were both of those guys gay, they were promiscuously gay, by their own admission. (People start getting very honest when they're dying.)
I know thousands of people. You probably know at least hundreds of people. Assuming you don't live in Africa or an inner city slum, of those thousands or hundreds of people, how many completely heterosexual people do you know who got HIV by having sex with someone?
See my point?
2. Pregnancies Caused By "Pre-Cum". This is a big one that comes up a lot. A lot of guys are worried about impregnating chicks because of "pre-cum". Why? Because the medical community harps on this constantly. "PULLING OUT DOESN'T WORK!!! PUTTING ON A CONDOM AT THE END OF SEX DOESN'T WORK!!! EVEN IF YOU PULL OUT IN TIME YOU CAN GET WOMEN PREGNANT WITH YOUR PRE-CUM!!!" I heard that for years, and believed it.
Then I thought a moment and looked at the facts. I have a high sperm count (I know, because I checked). I also personally generate a healthy amount of pre-cum during sex before I cum. I was married for nine years to one of the most fertile women on the planet. For nine years straight, we would have sex without a condom, then at the very end of sex I would put a condom on, resume, and cum. For nine years of this she didn't get pregnant on accident once.
"So what?" you say, "That's just one woman!" True. So let's multiply this by a bazillion other women I've had sex with. Over the course of my 40 year life, I've had sex with many women, many times, where I either put on a condom at the end of sex or pulled out.
I'm not trying to brag here but I've had sex with a lot of women. More importantly, I have sex with the same women frequently, and have been following that pattern more or less for about 20 years. That's a lot of sex. (As regular readers know, I like to have sex at least three times a week, every week, and that's a minimum.) Therefore, technically I have "pre-cum" hundreds of times with women and I have a high sperm count, yet I have never gotten a woman pregnant on accident in my entire life.
Of course women being on birth control is a factor, and I'm pretty good about verifying that, but over 20 years not all of them were on birth control, as the example of my ex-wife (though there have been many others).
I have talked to other men who have had sex with lots of women, and they've told me the exact same thing: The only time they've gotten women pregnant is when they gushed inside them.
I have also talked to guys who got women pregnant on "accident" and they "didn't know why", only to get them to eventually admit that they did indeed cum inside them "for real". Not "pre-cum", but "real cum".
Conclusion: I call bullshit on this "pregnancy via pre-cum" thing. It's crap. (Disclaimer: I am not a doctor.) Guys getting women preggo are unable to control themselves in those final moments and are cumming inside them, fully, and then saying they didn't. It's not pre-cum's fault.
I could go on and on with other examples, sexual and otherwise. My point is I have a healthy distrust of medical community dogma. There's just too much smoke in that kitchen for there not to be a fire.
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Warped Mindless 2012-05-27 20:43:44
Please... go on... I would love to hear more about what you think is BS. For the longest time i've known that people are way to scared of catching STDs but the pre cum thing is new to me.
lovergirl 2012-05-28 00:25:03
I've had sex with a lot of guys in my life who just used the pull out method and I never once got pregnant from it. I am pretty fertile too, I once got pregnant by my ex husband the only time all year we had sex. :P. Of course there are really only about 5 days a month when a woman is able to get pregnant anyway. Doctors like to scare people away from using natural family planning because it doesn't make any money for pharmaceutical companies but it works pretty darn well if you know your body and when you are likely to ovulate. I used it for 13 yrs and all my children were conceived during times I was supposed to be fertile. Robert Mendhelson wrote some great books exposing the medical community as basically a cult that we as a society are taught to worship. His books are a little older but still pretty relevant. He wrote a book I think it was titled "What Your Doctor Doesn't Want You to Know" or something to that effect and "How to Raise a Healthy Child in Spite of Your Doctor" and some others. He was a Dr. himself. and talks about how we are pretty much socialized to believe that whatever a doctor says is gospel truth.
lovergirl 2012-05-28 00:32:20
Okay sorry, my book title was way off...it was called "Confessions of a Medical Heretic". 🙂 I have the other one "How to Raise a Healthy Child in Spite of Your Doctor" and he wrote one called "Male Practice, How Doctors Manipulate Women" that has to do with gynecology type stuff.
Blackdragon 2012-05-28 09:33:20
I wouldn't go as far as cult worship, but the overall point is the same. The medical community is a group of emotional human beings just like any other group, with agendas and desires and the means and motivation to act on those desires, rational or not. I'm not one of those oddballs who hates doctors and never goes. If there's something wrong with my body, I go. I just keep my BS detector on full blast whenever a doctor or nurse is telling me something "on the record".
Kevin Velasco (@Kevin_Velasco) 2012-06-01 09:12:04
Recently a doctor told me to be sure I double-wrap myself with two condoms before having sex. Uhh... everybody knows that double-wrapping increases the chances of the condom breaking, right?
Hammer 2012-06-15 12:30:16
FYI, the reason that breast cancer is elevated is because of evolutionarily inappropriate foods in the diet and a lack of quality sleep. Check out the paleo diet and specifically Robb Wolf or Mark Sisson's site for more info. To your point, pulling out has never failed me. I will rarely date a girl past 3 or 4 times sleeping with her if she doesn't let me hit it without a condom. Condom sex is not sex, period.
Johnny Caustic 2013-07-13 03:41:58
Female-to-male transmission of AIDS is extremely unlikely for circumcised men with no STDs, because there's no easy way for the virus to enter the man. Uncircumcised men have twice the risk of contracting AIDS from an infected woman. It's hypothesized, but far from proven, that this is because the virus can enter through the Langerhans cells or other cells of the foreskin. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Circumcision_and_HIV Gonorrhea also increases the risk, because it creates microulcerations on the penis through which the virus is believed to enter. The frequency of female-to-male transmission of AIDS seems to be highest in Africa, where gonorrhea is common and circumcision is not. Also, many more women there are infected. Regarding precum, it's believed that many spermatozoa are needed to contribute enough of the enzymes that soften the zona pellucida (ovum wall) in the acrosome reaction before one spermatozoan can get through. Precum doesn't contain many sperm, if any, so it seems unlikely to me that precum could do the job, especially considering the cervical obstacle course the sperm have to get through to do it. http://books.google.com/books?id=I6X8G8YPdv4C&pg=PA800&lpg=PA800
Jose Noway 2013-12-28 21:02:52
Just confirming the 'no pregnancy from pre-cum' thing. Together for ~30 years. Never used any protection/contraception except pulling out. Zero unwanted pregnancy. When we wanted kids we made two, so no infertility on either side. Pre-cum is safe as long as you do pull out in time.
coopersasaurus 2014-02-14 15:33:25
Hey BD, I agree with the tone of this discussion (especially in the crazy world of vaccinations) but your friend is WAY off with her assessment of DDT. If you haven't read The Skeptical Environmentalist by Bjorn Lomborg you really need to. It's absolutely in the top 10 of my book list and it's exhaustive in its statistical and scientific analysis and referencing of many areas. The DDT (and other "chemicals) myth is completely exploded. Killer blog, my friend!
Josh 2014-09-16 16:31:05
Med student (almost graduated) here. As others have said, that girl's DDT comments are completely off base. Regarding the whole pre-cum discussion...there is no sperm in pre-cum. However, as the pre-cum travels through the urethra on its way out, it will pick up any "left-over" sperm. So yes, you can get pregnant from pre-cum but the concentration of sperm will be much lower (and thus much less likely than with normal ejaculation), and the risk is less the further out you are from your last ejaculation or if you've had a lot of urinating inbetween to flush those left-overs out. Also, I completely disagree with anyone that claims that doctors (as a whole) do or say things because of some backing from a pharmaceutical company or because it makes them less money. Sure, there are most likely some doctors that do things like that, but definitely not the medical community as a whole. Regarding pulling out as birth control, doctors advise against it because it doesn't work well as people use it. That last bit is the most important part. It's success rate is much lower than other birth control methods because people just don't do it well (this includes people who decided mid-sex not to pull out, or didn't pull out in time, etc.). Perfect usage (the kind that blackdragon espouses) is much more effective. This difference between perfect/ideal usage and actual usage explains why birth control that you don't even think about (eg IUDs) are so successful.
Blackdragon 2014-09-16 17:46:14
there is no sperm in pre-cum. However, as the pre-cum travels through the urethra on its way out, it will pick up any “left-over” sperm. So yes, you can get pregnant from pre-cum but the concentration of sperm will be much lowerIn other words, it's safe. You need something like a million sperm per milliliter to even have a chance of getting a woman pregnant. Pre cum has no where near this number.
Regarding pulling out as birth control, doctors advise against it because it doesn’t work well as people use it.I can't speak for anyone else, but my point is that here's a huge difference between saying pulling out isn't as effective as condoms vs using scare tactics by screaming that PRECUM CAN MAKE YOU PREGNANT! The medical community has been using scare tactics like this since I was a child; I object to it.
buzz 2014-11-26 17:43:20
All diseases of every kind are much more common in Africa. AIDS/HIV started there. Ebola started there A new form of polio that our current vaccines do not protect against started there. The uncircumcised men have a higher chance of catching anything myth started there also. Africa is just a cesspool of very strange people and things that happen there do not happen anywhere else in the world. Medical people put a lot of faith in things they have read somewhere and tend to be young very healthy people without a lot of experience they do not have to meet the standards of performance that car mechanics or computer repairmen have to. Medical people are seriously affected by SP! They can have a long successful career without being correct about anything. Note that 240 medical people have died of Ebola, 15 of them were doctors, remember that when they tell you they are sure that Ebola is not airborne and that it can never take longer than 21 days to incubate. Examples The standards for blood pressure have gone up and down several times. Incubation times for most diseases vary much more than medical texts state. The they do things like: only 10 percent of the population is sensitive to salt, 90 percent of people it makes no difference at all, They do not have anyway to find the 10 percent so.... they just say everyone should avoid salt! AIDs/HIV has been around for over 90 years. It came from Africa, it was transferred to humans from great apes. The common theory is butchering chimpanzees to eat or possibly sex with apes! It was a very rare disease until it hit the homosexual community because of anal sex. The only way it ever got to heterosexuals is bisexual men infecting females by having anal sex with them, transfusions from infected blood and also possibly sharing needles. So, don't butcher "bush meat" Don't have unprotected sex with apes! Don't receive anal sex. Don't share needles. Don't get a transfusion. Don't have an organ transplant. and you are way below 2 percent on HIV/AIDs
Felix 2016-02-03 19:42:19
Don't bother listening to the doctors. They are trained to diagnose disease. They are not trained biochemists. They get one class in biochemistry. A couple of classes in physiology. If you really want to know what's going on, ask a specialist. Doctors are just as prone to stupid ideas as any other human. Sometimes worse because they are doctors so they think they can't be wrong. They hear something and don't bother checking the facts and you get that silliness about breast cancer. Why is breast cancer numbers increasing? For several reasons. People are living longer. The longer you live the more likely you are to get cancer of any type. It's not linear. The older you get your chances go up dramatically. More carcinogens in our food supply and water. New materials that cause cancer but hasn't been banned yet. There are many more reasons. DDT? No. It doesn't stay in the environment for 1000 years. As a biochemist, I can tell you that that is total BS. She has no clue what she is talking about. But then the other doctors aren't biochemists either so if she states that strongly enough, they will believe her because of her credentials. And that is how you start stupid ideas that just won't die. Human use only 10% of their brain. NO. Total BS. That came from the 50's or even before when they had no clue what the human brain did. You are using 100% of your brain. There is no wastage. But ask 100 people and 99 will tell you that yes, people only use 10% of their brain. What specialized knowledge do they have to point to this? None, absolutely none but they will tell you with conviction even thought hey have no clue. I could go on but we live in human societies and BS is the norm.
Kevlar Waterfall 2016-06-17 06:57:04
The occurrence of first time cancer by age, is identical to the 1970s. There is no increase in the rate or risk of cancer. However, there is a huge spike in cancer risk around age 70. There are far more people making it to 70 now, than there were 40-50 years ago. http://www.skepticalraptor.com/skepticalraptorblog.php/cancer-prevalent-usa-another-myth-debunked/ There are only four major things known to cause cancer. Age(by far #1), sun exposure, weight, and smoking(but only a few specific types of cancer). Even things like asbestos which common knowledge tells us is a serious cancer risk, really isn't. http://spiderjohnson.com/asbestos.html Much less GMO, vaccines, BPA, cell phones, or any of this other nonsense.
buzz 2016-06-17 19:07:40
and neither is smoking all the oldest people in the world are smokers, the oldest is 126 and still smokes a pack a day!!!! Google it if you don't believe me....
Paul 2016-06-30 00:55:13
I had sex with a girl when I was drunk and didn't cum. Should I be worrying
Peemo 2016-07-12 09:29:31
I had sex with hundreds of girls over a six year period in a Third World Asian country. I never, ever used a condom. I used the withdrawal method to avoid pregnancy and NEVER got a girl pregnant using it. I got one girl pregnant but I didn't pull out in time, and I kicked myself for it. I did get Chlamydia about five times. Thankfully the antibiotics always worked. Never got HIV... My sexual lifestyle could be described as reckless, but it backs up the statistics of what we're talking about.