The Ten Commandments Of Dating

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The Ten Commandments Of Dating

-By Caleb Jones

Yea! I have descended from the mountain and have speaketh with thy Dragon God. And he has spoketh unto me His words of power. I have etched His eternal words upon these tablets. Lo! Behold and heed His almighty wisdom, so that thou mayest go forth and swiftly stab thy mighty rod into many a feminine golden gully of joy!

1. Thou shalt remain confident and outcome independent at all times during interactions with women.

2. Thou shalt improve and maintain thy personal appearance at the highest levels possible.

3. Thou shalt always maintain a sexual frame and sexual EFA.

4. Thou shalt always focus thine energies on multiple women.

5. Thou shalt focus on one area of seduction at a time (online dating, club game, daygame, or social circle game) and become expert at such before attempting other areas.

6. That shalt escalate to sex quickly and strongly. Thou shalt never wait longer than 1-3 hours before beginning hard sexual escalation.

7. Thou shalt focus on the youngest women possible, based on thy age. (If she's very young, thou hast better check her ID before thy mighty rod enters her golden gully, thou dumbass!)

8. Thou shalt never kiss a woman on a first date unless 'tis very obvious oral sex or real sex is going to occur very quickly on that date. (Touch/kino a woman, yes. Kiss a woman, no.)

9. Thou shalt not spend money on a woman pre-sex, so as to not activate provider expectations from her. Less than $15 for a first date is acceptable, zero is ideal.

10. Thou shalt never try to have sex with a woman over the age of 33 unless thou already knows her personally and some level of sexual interest from her has been demonstrated.

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This article was originally published on November 15, 2012


  • Blimy 2012-11-15 10:53:13


  • Wils 2012-11-15 11:51:13

    Understood and remember all of that. Need elaboration on the 1 about sexual frame. (without coming off as creepy).

  • Ray 2012-11-15 12:22:54

    Sick bastard (in à good Way) so true in everyway except....

  • Jed 2012-11-15 18:08:42

    This is the only Blackdragon post I've ever bookmarked. Simple rules, but this is all you really need.

  • Sticky Fingers 2012-11-15 22:05:10

    What's EFA? Tried googling it, none of the acronyms fit.

  • HungryWolf 2012-11-16 00:52:13

    Early frame announcement.

  • Oxyjinn 2012-11-16 04:17:06

    Holly BD! LOL @Sticky Fingers

  • Sticky Fingers 2012-11-16 04:24:11

    Thanks, guys.

  • Blackdragon 2012-11-16 12:22:10

    I did my best to distill the 10 main things about fast seduction. I might be missing one or two, but I think those are it. @Wils - That's a big topic. I'll do a blog post about it soon.

  • piratecaptainben 2012-11-16 15:37:33

    @Wils: I've been trying not to worry about coming off as creepy. At least not for being a sexual man. I figure if a sexual man strikes her as creepy, she's probably not a very sexually open woman and I should just move on to a better prospect. And anyway, the female definition of "creepy" is so vague and nebulous and varies so much from woman to woman that it doesn't seem to make much sense to try to avoid it. Might as well try to avoid getting eaten by a qwyjibo. What's a qwyjibo? I couldn't tell you, but I know one when I see one. Suuuuuure, ladies. Maybe that's wrong, I dunno, I'm still learning. I'm curious what the reasoning behind #8 and #10 are. #10 I'm not so much concerned with since 33 is a bit above what my normal target demographic would be anyway (I'm 30), but I'd love to hear #8 expanded upon. Like I say, I'm new at this stuff so I'm not disputing it, just revealing my own ignorance.

  • Ellie 2012-11-16 16:51:10

    Awesome commandments list! If I was religious, I shall follow these holy seduction rules. The only one I would find debatable is #8. On one hand, it can be true that you can activate LMR by kissing her on the first date. But on the other hand, I've found that some girls you need to escalate to a kiss so that she doesn't categorize you into a friend. This is especially true for me, since I'm a skinny guy with a babyface, whose sexuality doesn't initially come off. I've had sex on the first date often, and I also know that some girls dropped me because I kissed them on the first date. At the same time, women who I didn't kiss on the first date, I've laid on the 2nd/3rd date, as well as got flaked by women because I didn't kiss them on the first date. So that's why I find #8 for me to be debatable. 🙂 I guess it depends on the girl.

  • Blackdragon 2012-11-17 00:33:18

    I’ve found that some girls you need to escalate to a kiss so that she doesn't categorize you into a friend.
    That is precisely why on the first date you need to kino, touch, sex talk, and have a very strong sexual frame and vibe. All of this can be done without kissing. I'm not saying "don't kiss and act like her friend the entire time". No, no. Listen to my third podcast here for more details on this:

  • SexyArabMan 2012-12-17 19:45:24

    Interested in number 5. Why do you say you should focus on one area individually? I was thinking of starting a routine with 2 days of daygame and 2 nights of club/bar game.

  • Blackdragon 2012-12-18 09:09:10

    That means you're doing two forms of game. I would do 4 days of one type of game. Your choice.

  • Andy 2017-02-06 17:26:30

    If you are in your 50 s is it ok to date a woman of over 33?

  • Blackdragon 2017-02-06 17:56:23

    If you are in your 50 s is it ok to date a woman of over 33?
    Yes, particularly if you're a beginner at all this. Focus on women in their 30s or 40s, and when you get reasonably confident with those, move to the younger women if you want.