Strong, Independent Woman? Are You Sure That’s What You Are?

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-By Caleb Jones

You are not a strong, independent woman if you demand he "put a ring on it."

You are not a strong, independent woman if you require any alimony or spousal support to pay your bills.

You are not a strong, independent woman if you've ever cried at work because you were upset or didn't get your way.

You are not a strong, independent woman if you still live with your mom or dad (or grandpa, grandma, or grown sibling).

You are not a strong, independent woman if you expect a man buy you dinner on a date, complaining he's not "a gentleman" if he doesn't.

You are not a strong, independent woman if the only reason you have that nice new house, nice new boobs, or nice new car is because you cashed out in a divorce from a man with money.

You are not a strong, independent woman if you require any government money to pay your bills for you or your children. That includes any EBT, food stamps, welfare, subsidized housing, etc.

You are not a strong, independent woman if you demand a man marry you.

You are not a strong, independent woman if you regularly vote for politicians because they promise to give you more free money or services.

You are not a strong, independent woman if you rely on occasional money from parents or other family members.

You are not a strong, independent woman if you scream at someone because you're on your period, then get even more upset at that person when they suggest you're screaming at them because you're on your period.

You are not a strong, independent woman if you require a roommate or live-in boyfriend to help cover your rent.

You are not a strong, independent woman if you have some kind of dollar figure, even a very general one, a man must spend on you before you'll have sex with him.

You are not a strong, independent woman if have any babies you know you can't afford without financial assistance from government or extended family.

You are not a strong, independent woman if you try to get out of certain tasks at your job that men with your same job title are expected to do.

You are not a strong, independent woman if you start dating a new guy and immediately demand he stop having sex with all other women even though you strongly declare to him that the two of you "aren't serious" and that you're "not his girlfriend."

You are not a strong, independent woman if you avoid dating men below a certain income level, especially if that income level is above the average.

You are not a strong, independent woman if you keep dating a guy you caught cheating. (I'm against monogamy of course, but if you're strongly for it, and you keep dating a guy who's already cheated on you, you're not what I would call strong or independent.)

(Americans only:) You are not a strong, independent woman if the only way you can get medical insurance is from a government health plan.

You are not a strong, independent woman if you demand a man move in with you (or you with him).

You are not a strong, independent woman if you've ever complained to human resources at your job for something a man would never complain about if the male-equivalent had happened to him.

Whew!

Apparently there are a lot of women who don't understand what the words "strong" and "independent" mean.

Allow me to help you.

Strong means "not mild or weak" and "not easily injured or disturbed." Does that sound like a woman who cries at work or screams at someone for correctly suggesting she's screaming because she's on her period?

"Independent" means "not requiring or relying on others" and "showing a strong desire for freedom." Does that sound like a woman who demands marriage, or relies on government or extended family to pay her bills, or who demands a man buy her free food on a bunch of dates before they have sex?

This is why women who strongly (defensively?) claim they're "strong" or "independent" are actually telegraphing the exact opposite. Remember, a woman dependent on bossing a man around is not independent. She's dependent on bossing you around. A truly independent woman has enough self-confidence to not give a shit what her man does.

Fortunately there are people like me here to help educate women on the correct definitions of English words. Please do your part in helping me to increase feminine literacy rates worldwide. Using one of the social media sharing buttons below or the link to this post, please forward this post to any woman who's claimed she's a "strong, independent woman" lately.

Let's all pitch in and ensure an educated, English-literate female populace. An educated woman is a happy woman. For a better tomorrow.

Thank you.

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