I use a lot of time management techniques and they’re all useful. Time management is a core, foundational skill critical to long-term consistent happiness and an absolute requirement for the Alpha Male 2.0. Without time management skills, you will never be able to get the core areas of your life (business, women, etc.) to optimal levels, nor keep them there if you do.
While all of the time management techniques I use are valuable, some are more powerful than others. Today I’m going to describe one of the most effective and motivational time management techniques I have ever used, and something that I attribute a lot of my success over the past 15 years or so of my life.
This is to constantly be aware of where you are in the year. I will explain.
What is today’s date? Quick! Without looking, what is it?
A decent percentage of you couldn’t answer that question without checking. I think you know the month and the year, but not the date.
Another percentage of you knew exactly what the date was. That’s good, but you don’t attach any significance to it. If you look at today’s date and it shows April 11th, your brain just shrugs. April 11th. Yeah, so what? There’s no significance to that date at all (unless it’s your birthday or some other unusual event).
For me, it’s very different. The date, regardless of what the date is, has massive significance to me and serves as a huge motivator and ass-kicker to get my work done and achieve my goals.
As I’ve mentioned before, I have a constant visual representation of the entire year on my office wall. This shows the entire year with bright orange stickers on every day that has already passed. That means I can, and always do, see, at a glance exactly where I am in the year.
Most people’s brains say, “Yeah, April 11th. Okay, whatever.”
But my brain says, “HOLY SHIT!!! Three months of the year are already over! One-fourth of the year is already GONE! It’s already April! I only have less than nine months to accomplish ALL of my goals and projects for this year! And crap! April is already pretty much HALF WAY OVER! It’s going to be May soon! By the end of the year, I need to get this, and this and this done! OH MY GOD! And I’m getting older by the minute! Soon I’m going to be an entire year older! And I need to get this, and this and this done before age X! I need to get to work! Let’s roll!”
Reading that, it might seem negative. And it is negative in that it’s negative motivation. As Tony Robbins once said 30 years ago and as I have found both for myself and most human beings, negative motivation tends to motivate even better than positive motivation.
If you really want to drive a Mercedes, and I say to you, “Hey man, work hard for the next three weeks, then you can buy a new Mercedes!”, then that will probably motivate you.
But if I say, “Hey man, work hard for the next three weeks, and if you don’t, you’re going to lose all $20,000 from your savings!”, then you’re going to work much harder.
That’s because humans are more motivated by pain rather than pleasure.
Ideally, you should be motivated by both. At the SMIC Program I have many podcasts regarding specific techniques you can use to constantly have positive motivation in your day-to-day life, and they’re important. But negative motivation is also important, and you should do both.
If you have zero negative motivation, you’re likely to get comfortable, which is another word for lazy. I don’t ever want to get lazy. I don’t ever want to lose that edge. So I make sure I have lots of positive and negative motivation to push me forward every day (unless I’m taking a pre-planned day off).
You need to have a constant, daily, visual reminder of where you are in the year. That not only means the current date, but how much time has already passed (and thus unavailable to you), and how little time is now available to you for the rest of the year to get your goals accomplished and your projects done.
My favorite way to do this is to get to my local office supply store once a year and get a laminated all-year calendar on one sheet, then put bright orange stickers on every day that has already passed.
I also will use other colored stickers to denote upcoming events in the year such as critical projects with specific dates attached, travel, static business dates, and key deadlines. To make sure I get that positive motivation in there as well, I also put in fun things like vacations, birthdays, big paydays, and other celebrations that are attached to certain dates.
I make sure to put this calendar in my office where it is very obvious and right in my face. I’ve actually set up my office to where it’s the first thing I see when I walk over to my desk to sit down. I want this thing screaming at me every day. Every day it’s a fantastic wake-up call to get my ass in gear.
Then you need to address the mental aspect of this. As I talk about in The Unchained Man, you need to start viewing time as a dreadfully finite and diminishing resource. I have a massive abundance mentality about literally everything in my life except time. With time, I have a massive scarcity mindset that really helps motivate me.
You need to view yourself as standing alone in the desert. The current year is a bucket of water in your hand that you need to survive, but, there’s a huge hole in the bottom and the water is very quickly draining out. You’ll treasure that water much more with that hole than without it.
This is exactly why no one ever accomplishes their New Year’s resolutions. They’re all excited for the New Year, the only time of the year they’re actually “aware” of where they are in the year, they set a bunch of goals, and by February they’ve forgotten to place any significance on the remainder of the year. It’s just February 3rd now, so what, whatever.
I have said that my favorite day of the entire year is January 2nd. And it is. This day, for me, is more exciting than Christmas and my birthday combined. It’s the first workday after New Years and the only day in the entire year where I have a brand new, unused, fresh year to get my goals accomplished and my projects done. It’s super exciting.
Every day after January 2nd, all the way to December 31st, I watch where I am in the year like a hawk, and this motivates the hell out of me, both positively and negatively.
It’s also useful to know how you break out the year in terms of your goals. I’ve talked about these in other places, but to summarize very quickly:
January through May is Go Time, the best time of the year to work on your business and financial goals since there are very few holidays during this time and the weather (at least in the Northern Hemisphere) is not that great.
January through March is also the best time of year to meet and date new women, for similar reasons. For a breakdown on all the months of the year and how they relate to dating, read this.
The summer months of June through August plus November and December are workable, but more difficult months to get business and women tasks done since everyone is often out of town, taking vacations, hosting visiting family or friends, or enjoying the nicer weather. This does not mean you slack off during those months. I certainly don’t. I’ve made mountains of money and added tons of women to my dating life during these months. I’m just saying these months are not quite the cakewalk the earlier months are.
May, September, and October are “average” or “typical” months with no particular pluses or minuses.
Of course, all of these may vary depending on which country you live in and in which hemisphere you reside, but you get my point.
The bottom line is this:
1. Plan out your year.
2. Get a visual representation of it on your office wall.
3. Mark off the days as you go.
4. Look at this bastard every day and remind yourself that the year is quickly fading.
Make the year both your friend and your enemy. By doing this, you’ll accomplish so much stuff by Christmas that you’ll be shocked at all the amazing stuff you got done that year. This happens to me every year, and it’s a great feeling.
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Von
Posted at 01:19 pm, 12th April 2019Huh, that’s actually brilliant! One of my big goals is to regiment and control virtually every aspect of my life to a reasonable degree. I hate it when outside forces and random chance decides how I live in day to day life.
Thank you. I’m off to search for time management techniques and write them down.
Eric C Smith
Posted at 01:22 pm, 12th April 2019hm I’ve been taking down the months once they are over. I’ll keep them up and streamlined.
I’ll lock in the tiny bucket of water thing.
Dan
Posted at 08:24 am, 13th April 2019I like this idea, and have just ordered my 2019 calender now. Still plenty of time to put it to use. 🙂
Quick time management question. I have a small but successful online business and am creating a new course. Is it better to have a big course I can sell for say $200 or multiple smaller courses (say 4-5) to sell at $50-70? The second option seems better on paper but just wondering your thoughts on creating products?
Don`t want to waste time creating something that doesn`t work as either option would be a big investment in time.
Caleb Jones
Posted at 10:08 am, 13th April 2019Have a big course, sell it for as much as you can, and market the absolute hell out of it. Then later, do it again with a new course. And so on.
Dan
Posted at 03:55 pm, 14th April 2019Thanks, appreciate the advice. Hoping to rejoin the smic soon to get some more coaching off you
Investor
Posted at 04:42 am, 15th April 2019How do you prevent the trap of making the long term plans over ambitious? I guess in your case you already know what is or isn’t realistic but for someone starting out?
Caleb Jones
Posted at 10:26 am, 15th April 2019https://calebjonesblog.com/should-you-improve-forever-should-you-be-the-best/
Investor
Posted at 12:45 pm, 15th April 2019Okay thanks, but I meant more like how do you know what is realistically achievable when you haven’t used the techniques yet or are starting something new you haven’t yet done? I think somewhere in some of your articles and books you sometimes say to start with small baby steps and then take it from there. Does that apply here also?
Caleb Jones
Posted at 05:41 pm, 15th April 2019Start with your ideal lifestyle first. Then figure out how much it will cost after taxes. Then set your goals. THEN, step 4, determine the timing of those goals (the TIMING, not the goals themselves), guessing as best you can, based on what you’re capable of. You’re trying to make that step 1 when it’s step 4.
joelsuf
Posted at 01:27 pm, 17th April 2019For some reason, negative motivation doesn’t help me. In fact, it just makes me want to give up. But positive motivation lights all kinds of fires under my ass. Any reason why you think this might be, Caleb?
Oh and I was one of those who was able to say what the date is without looking at it. I even knew what day it was! =)
Caleb Jones
Posted at 04:58 pm, 17th April 2019That’s a question for a psychologist, not me.
Stork
Posted at 04:28 am, 25th May 2019https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VoAfb3f04mo
One of the most useful pieces of advice out there. We all have a tendency to become complacent with what we have, so you’ll always be more motivated to prevent a loss than to make a gain. The trick some people use is to take the nice things they want in the future already for granted, as if they already had them, and tell themselves “if you don’t do x and y you will lose these things you pretty much already have in the future”.
Which it kinda actually is true in a way, if you keep or kept working towards it you will eventually find a way to attain it unless you fuck it up by giving up or becoming distracted.